Episode 5: Losing My Dad to Cancer — Grief, Anger, and What Not to Say to a Grieving Person.

Grief, Anger, Losing Friends — and the Things You Should Never Say

with Calum

What happens when grief doesn’t just break your heart — it changes who you are?

In this episode, Calum, originally from South Africa, based in London, shares the painful story of losing his father to cancer on short notice. But this conversation goes beyond the loss itself. We talk about the anger grief leaves behind, the mood swings, the isolation — and the friends who quietly drift away because they don’t understand the version of you that grief creates.

We reflect on how grief can make you someone people don’t recognise — and the silent expectations put on men to “stay strong” and “move on.” Callum opens up about being the only son in his family, the weight of responsibility, and how grief can feel like failure when you’re expected to hold it all together.

We also explore one of the biggest lessons grief teaches: dos & don'ts and the things people say (and shouldn’t say) to those who are grieving. Because sometimes, even well-meaning words can cut the deepest.

This is a raw, honest conversation about loss, friendship, anger, and why it’s okay to not be okay.

Sound Note:
There are a few moments in this episode where the audio may not be as clear (especially with the psychotherapist’s mic). If you're listening on audio platforms, increasing your volume may help during these parts. 

Thank you for your patience and understanding — the heart of the conversation remains so important, and I truly appreciate you listening.🤎

• Helpful Resources and Support Lines:
  • UK: Mental Health Foundation – Get Help
  • USA: Mental Health Is Health – Find a Helpline
  • Nigeria: Mentally Aware Nigeria Initiative (MANI)
  • Global: United for Global Mental Health

Please take care of yourself. 🤎